• Self-esteem

    When your self-esteem isn’t it tact, it has been diminished by constant reminders that you are worthless, useless and nobody wants you, you feel frightened and vulnerable. You are open to the challenges life brings but as they breeze in they knock you over and you feel incapable.

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  • Friends come and go

    I was considering why it is that friends come into our lives and some of them go out of our lives again. There are many and varied reasons I suspect, but for me I think that some people fall away because of the changes I have made to myself.

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  • Rebuilding Self-esteem

    When your self-esteem isn’t it tact, it has been diminished by constant reminders that you are worthless, useless and nobody wants you, you feel frightened and vulnerable. You are open to the challenges life brings but, as they breeze in, they knock you over and you feel incapable.

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  • Relationship anxiety

    Relationship anxiety is very destructive, as you know. If you don’t learn how to get rid of anxiety in your relationship, it leads into a very devastating downward spiral:

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  • Perception

    As far as I know there is no secret recipe for happiness or contentment.

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  • Cause and effect

    How do you live your life? Do you live it at cause – or do you live it at effect? And what does that mean for you?

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  • Disrespect

    I am shocked at the amount of disrespect there is for people of all ages by those who are deemed ‘professionals’.

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  • We are conditioned both deliberately and accidentally throughout life

    As we go through life we learn a vast amount of things, and we start from the very moment we are born (some say before we are born, and they may well be right).

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  • Friends and family who sap your positive energy

    The people with whom you have the most contact and who hang around you will have either a positive or negative effect on your levels of self-esteem and confidence.

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  • How to have a stress free Christmas

    We all know that Christmas can be stressful. There is the usual invasion by the family, and extended family, the standing on ceremony all day, the extra expense as well as time and frustration trying to get the Christmas dinner on the table on time.

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  • Getting rid of stuff can be good

    I was looking through my folder of coaching stuff that I have collected over the years. It was all contained in a folder that had 50 clear A4 sized pockets, and it was crammed with information.

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  • Why, what, how and what?

    Why would you want to work with me? I have over a decade of experience as a coach and mentor and have worked with an amazing array of people from all walks of life.

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  • How do I know I have low self-esteem?

    Low self-esteem manifests itself in a variety of ways, and I should know I have been there.

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  • Stress - what is it?

    Have you set yourself goals that you think you want to achieve? If so, are they actually achievable? And more importantly are they really necessary?

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  • Celebrating success

    Have you ever noticed how terrible we can be at acknowledging what we have achieved? When congratulated on a success, we might hear ourselves say "oh it was nothing". On reaching a goal, we might skip the celebration because there is something else to strive for now. When reviewing a half completed 'to do' list, we'll bemoan what we didn't do, rather than focus on how much we actually achieved.

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  • Your accomplishment diary

    A great way to remind yourself how good you are is to keep an accomplishment diary. It is a smart tool to remind yourself just how good you are and what you have to be thankful for and pleased about in your life right now.

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  • You are great!

    One of the most well known confidence building exercises is to list your own strengths and natural abilities. By looking at the list you will be able to say “Wow, I really am good!” It is a true reflection of your abilities.

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  • Improve your body language, improve your self confidence!

    The way that you move your body, and how you walk has an enormous effect on the way that you feel and affects your confidence levels.

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  • Energy sapping people

    The people with whom you have the most contact and hang around will have either a positive or negative effect on your levels of energy, which can also affect your levels of self-esteem and confidence.

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  • Coaching with the Three Principles

    Even though people have different goals, aspirations or areas in their lives which they want to change, you will create space for peace and clarity, while your understanding of life deepens.

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  • Refocusing after setbacks

    How many times have you thought you were getting through a life trauma, or you are in the aftermath, and then you hit a setback and it seems that you went back to the way you were?

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  • Confidence Secret Agent 008!

    Are you ready to have some fun? Are you ready to go beyond enemy lines in the line of duty for queen and country? Ok, ok I know I’m getting carried away – how about completing another confidence building exercise instead?!

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  • Are you holding on to things you ‘should’ do?

    Are you carrying around with you a lot of emotional baggage that you could be doing without? If you were to lose that emotional weight you could be focusing on something more productive instead.

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  • How do you see yourself?

    It is interesting that with most people, everything they do on a day-to-day basis is affected by them comparing their activities with their view of their ideal qualities and then striving to behave consistently with them.

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  • Taking time for YOU!

    My clients often tell me that one of the added benefits of coaching they hadn’t considered before they started, is that their hour long session can often be the only time in a busy week that they feel able to step back and truly focus 100% on themselves. Hand on heart, how often could you say that you allow yourself to do that?

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  • Removing stress with coaching

    Why is it that all we seem to hear about these days is stress? Why does it seem to pervade everything we do?

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  • Improve your body language, improve your confidence!

    The way that you move your body, and how you walk has an enormous effect on the way that you feel and affects your confidence levels.

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  • Your assertive rights

    In your continuing journey of rebuilding your confidence as the real you, it is essential that you implement your assertive rights so that your life is as happy as it can be.

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  • Sometimes I have feelings of inadequacy

    Sometimes I have feelings of inadequacy and of not being good enough. I am not sure where they come from but I sometimes wake up feeling that way. I remember one such occasion, I went to a breakfast business networking meeting, one I went to every Thursday morning at 7am, which meant getting up at 5am to be showered and dressed ready for business by 6.15am at the latest. Then a 10 mile drive.

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  • Be a surfer – riding the incoming waves of information

    No sooner have we made a decision on what to eat or how to think about the universe than a new report, video or book comes out confounding our well-researched opinion.

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