• The Essence of You

    Do you remember when were you happy, free, creative, fun, vulnerable, secure? We are looking for the essence of who you are at the core of your being.

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  • Are you directionless?

    Each one of us has a life purpose. Your life’s direction and purpose is the culmination of various activities that allow you to express your intelligence and creativity. That allow you to live in accordance with your own core values, and to experience the profound joy of simply being yourself.

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  • Self acceptance

    How we see ourselves is frequently completely different from the way others see us. That doesn’t mean that how others see us is wrong, but we can judge ourselves very easily by what we perceive other people think. This ‘self judgement’ can distort our view of ourselves.

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  • Stress – what is it?

    Have you set yourself goals that you want to achieve? If so, are they actually achievable? And more importantly are they really necessary?

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  • Self-esteem

    When your self-esteem isn’t it tact, it has been diminished by constant reminders that you are worthless, useless and nobody wants you, you feel frightened and vulnerable. You are open to the challenges life brings but as they breeze in they knock you over and you feel incapable.

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  • How to experience ‘happiness’

    Being happy doesn’t depend on a particular outcome or something happening to you. There isn’t somewhere you can go and find happiness sitting there waiting for you.

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  • Get out of your own way

    It is amazing how often we can get in our own way without even being aware that is what we are doing.

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  • Friends come and go

    I was considering why it is that friends come into our lives and some of them go out of our lives again. There are many and varied reasons I suspect, but for me I think that some people fall away because of the changes I have made to myself.

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  • Rebuilding Self-esteem

    When your self-esteem isn’t it tact, it has been diminished by constant reminders that you are worthless, useless and nobody wants you, you feel frightened and vulnerable. You are open to the challenges life brings but, as they breeze in, they knock you over and you feel incapable.

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  • Relationship anxiety

    Relationship anxiety is very destructive, as you know. If you don’t learn how to get rid of anxiety in your relationship, it leads into a very devastating downward spiral:

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  • Perception

    As far as I know there is no secret recipe for happiness or contentment.

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  • The terror attack on 22nd March 2017 in London

    I looked on in horror at the television reports of the terror attack on Westminster Bridge in London. T

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  • Forgiveness - releasing the past

    Forgiveness is such an important subject that I feel compelled to spend some time explaining its significance. When we hold something unforgiven inside, we are nurturing anger, hatred and resentment or maybe even guilt.

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  • How to survive Valentine’s Day as a single person

    Take advantage of you and really look after yourself on this day. Turn the focus of your attention to you.

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  • Friends and family who sap your positive energy

    The people with whom you have the most contact and who hang around you will have either a positive or negative effect on your levels of self-esteem and confidence.

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  • Do you always need to defend yourself?

    Living with people who are verbally abusive or verbally aggressive can be very demanding on your time and energy. But does it have to be that way?

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  • Why, what, how and what?

    Why would you want to work with me? I have over a decade of experience as a coach and mentor and have worked with an amazing array of people from all walks of life.

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  • How do I know I have low self-esteem?

    Low self-esteem manifests itself in a variety of ways, and I should know I have been there.

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  • Stress - what is it?

    Have you set yourself goals that you think you want to achieve? If so, are they actually achievable? And more importantly are they really necessary?

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  • Making time for YOU!

    My clients often tell me that one of the added benefits of coaching they hadn't considered before they started, is that their coaching session can often be the only time in a busy week that they feel able to step back and truly focus 100% on themselves. Hand on heart, how often could you say that you allow yourself to do that?

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  • My self awareness

    When I was in my teens, and even up to my early 40s, I had very little self awareness. I plodded along doing what I was told to do, manipulated by so many people. I was so totally not self aware I didn’t even notice that I was living my life on other people’s terms.

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  • Who are your teachers?

    We learn all the time through various means – at school, college, university, from neighbours, friends, relatives etc. Who have been your teachers over the years? My teachers have been my parents, my primary school teachers, my senior school teachers, college tutors, my cousins, my children, my grandchildren, colleagues, my friends, my mother-in-law, my husband, myself and strangers.

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  • Your accomplishment diary

    A great way to remind yourself how good you are is to keep an accomplishment diary. It is a smart tool to remind yourself just how good you are and what you have to be thankful for and pleased about in your life right now.

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  • A different conversation

    I remember there were ‘models’ to learn, such as GROW – Goal, Reality, Options, Willingness. There were SMART goals – Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound. There were hierarchies such as ‘Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs’. Techniques such as NLP – Neurolinguistic Programming.

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  • Coaching with the Three Principles

    Even though people have different goals, aspirations or areas in their lives which they want to change, you will create space for peace and clarity, while your understanding of life deepens.

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  • Confidence Secret Agent 008!

    Are you ready to have some fun? Are you ready to go beyond enemy lines in the line of duty for queen and country? Ok, ok I know I’m getting carried away – how about completing another confidence building exercise instead?!

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  • What makes you laugh?

    I was considering this the other day. There are so many things that make us laugh, whether it be a quiet chuckle or a full blown belly laugh. Frequently there is something that makes us really smile or laugh.

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  • Your assertive rights

    In your continuing journey of rebuilding your confidence as the real you, it is essential that you implement your assertive rights so that your life is as happy as it can be.

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  • Dealing with emotional and psychological abuse

    I discovered that emotional abuse came from several directions. It came from my first husband who, for years, told me that I was not clever, no use at ironing his shirts, not like his mother, not good enough to be part of his family….. and so on, and on he went.

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  • Sometimes I have feelings of inadequacy

    Sometimes I have feelings of inadequacy and of not being good enough. I am not sure where they come from but I sometimes wake up feeling that way. I remember one such occasion, I went to a breakfast business networking meeting, one I went to every Thursday morning at 7am, which meant getting up at 5am to be showered and dressed ready for business by 6.15am at the latest. Then a 10 mile drive.

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