• Self acceptance

    How we see ourselves is frequently completely different from the way others see us. That doesn’t mean that how others see us is wrong, but we can judge ourselves very easily by what we perceive other people think. This ‘self judgement’ can distort our view of ourselves.

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  • Rebuilding Self-esteem

    When your self-esteem isn’t it tact, it has been diminished by constant reminders that you are worthless, useless and nobody wants you, you feel frightened and vulnerable. You are open to the challenges life brings but, as they breeze in, they knock you over and you feel incapable.

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  • We are conditioned both deliberately and accidentally throughout life

    As we go through life we learn a vast amount of things, and we start from the very moment we are born (some say before we are born, and they may well be right).

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  • My self awareness

    When I was in my teens, and even up to my early 40s, I had very little self awareness. I plodded along doing what I was told to do, manipulated by so many people. I was so totally not self aware I didn’t even notice that I was living my life on other people’s terms.

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  • Shopping in charity shops – Is there a stigma?

    When you walk along most high streets you will find several charity shops. There are those that raise funds for animals, those that raise funds for research, those that raise funds to aid people, those that raise funds for a hospice or hospital. All are for good causes and are usually well supported.

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  • Dealing with emotional and psychological abuse

    I discovered that emotional abuse came from several directions. It came from my first husband who, for years, told me that I was not clever, no use at ironing his shirts, not like his mother, not good enough to be part of his family….. and so on, and on he went.

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  • Your wedding day - do you have to conform?

    There is pressure to have the right wedding dress, the right venue, the right wedding breakfast, the right buffet, the right music, the right wine/champagne, to invite the right people and so on.

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  • Do you have relationship anxiety?

    Relationship anxiety is very destructive, as you know. If you don’t learn how to get rid of anxiety in your relationship, it leads into a very devastating downward spiral:

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  • Why do people stay in abusive relationships?

    There are many, many reasons why women and men don’t leave an abusive relationship. Often it is because they don’t realise that they are being abused. They think it is normal. I know from experience that I believed the emotional, psychological and financial abuse I suffered was normal.

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  • Reclaim your power

    There is an innate awkwardness to being human. With each decision we make, there is always the potential for self-doubt, and it is this self-doubt that forms the root of our insecurity.

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  • Why we must care for ourselves

    So many of us focus so much on caring for others that we forget all about caring for ourselves. But when we don’t take the time to care for ourselves it can be extremely damaging to our health.

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  • What are your perceptions and beliefs?

    You are not truly aware of what someone else’s reality really looks like, and they are not truly aware of what your reality looks like. You are only aware of your own reality and how it looks to you.

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  • Do you know where your beliefs and values come from?

    Whether you realise it or not, you are constantly in the process of creating and changing your reality. You are not truly aware of what someone else's reality really looks like, and they are not truly aware of what your reality looks like. You are only aware of your own reality and how it looks to you.

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  • Are you really conscious of your thoughts?

    You are constantly barraged, from the minute you open your eyes and ears in the morning until the minute you close your eyes and ears at night, with information – facts and figures, fiction, half-truths, music, news, stories, half-heard conversations, pictures and images.

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  • Finding my emotions and feelings

    A few years ago I was working my way through a relationship programme and my fabulous coach, Heather Williams, and I discovered I had a block. We discovered I couldn’t express my emotions or feel my feelings in a way that I felt is right for me. Having been brought up from a very early age to not show anger and not allowed to show emotions it had become a habit which was now time to break. As a child I was also told that I should be seen and not heard. I was working on unblocking my emotions and feeling my feelings.

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  • Are you a slave to mental conditioning?

    Are you being held back by mental conditioning without even knowing it?

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