• Are you holding on to things you feel you ‘should’ do?

    A lot of people carry around with them a whole load of “baggage” or “clutter” in their minds. When I say this I mean that they are still holding onto things that they feel they ‘should’ do, but they really don’t want or need to.

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  • Self-esteem

    When your self-esteem isn’t it tact, it has been diminished by constant reminders that you are worthless, useless and nobody wants you, you feel frightened and vulnerable. You are open to the challenges life brings but as they breeze in they knock you over and you feel incapable.

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  • How to experience ‘happiness’

    Being happy doesn’t depend on a particular outcome or something happening to you. There isn’t somewhere you can go and find happiness sitting there waiting for you.

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  • Relationship anxiety

    Relationship anxiety is very destructive, as you know. If you don’t learn how to get rid of anxiety in your relationship, it leads into a very devastating downward spiral:

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  • Perception

    As far as I know there is no secret recipe for happiness or contentment.

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  • We are conditioned both deliberately and accidentally throughout life

    As we go through life we learn a vast amount of things, and we start from the very moment we are born (some say before we are born, and they may well be right).

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  • Friends and family who sap your positive energy

    The people with whom you have the most contact and who hang around you will have either a positive or negative effect on your levels of self-esteem and confidence.

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  • How to have a stress free Christmas

    We all know that Christmas can be stressful. There is the usual invasion by the family, and extended family, the standing on ceremony all day, the extra expense as well as time and frustration trying to get the Christmas dinner on the table on time.

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  • Impacting lives

    A year ago I verbalised that I intended to impact the lives of a million people and help them to become the authentic people that they are.

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  • What I have learned from business coaches

    Over the past past four years or so I have worked with several business coaches. Each one is extremely successful in their field and each one has taught me something. Interestingly, what I have learned from them is exactly the same.

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  • Getting rid of stuff can be good

    I was looking through my folder of coaching stuff that I have collected over the years. It was all contained in a folder that had 50 clear A4 sized pockets, and it was crammed with information.

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  • Why, what, how and what?

    Why would you want to work with me? I have over a decade of experience as a coach and mentor and have worked with an amazing array of people from all walks of life.

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  • Have you ‘neglected’ YOU over the summer?

    There has never been a better time to get serious about YOU! You probably think that you would like some help re-focusing.

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  • How do I know I have low self-esteem?

    Low self-esteem manifests itself in a variety of ways, and I should know I have been there.

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  • Learning to slow down - Stop and smell the roses

    Sometimes we are so busy that we rush through our days and lives, and we fail to notice the simple beauty of living.

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  • Allowing your reality to be

    There are times when we notice something about ourselves, our relationships and indeed our whole world that we feel needs to change.

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  • Celebrating success

    Have you ever noticed how terrible we can be at acknowledging what we have achieved? When congratulated on a success, we might hear ourselves say "oh it was nothing". On reaching a goal, we might skip the celebration because there is something else to strive for now. When reviewing a half completed 'to do' list, we'll bemoan what we didn't do, rather than focus on how much we actually achieved.

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  • Fast forward a year

    Have some thoughts about how would you like to see yourself in a year’s time? Do you see yourself exactly the same as you are now, or with some slight changes or perhaps with a whole new feel and look?

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  • Can you enjoy Valentine’s Day as a single person?

    There is so much emphasis on love and marriage leading up to Valentine’s Day and on the day itself. There are adverts everywhere and shops are full of gifts, treats and cards all specifically for this occasion.

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  • You are great!

    One of the most well known confidence building exercises is to list your own strengths and natural abilities. By looking at the list you will be able to say “Wow, I really am good!” It is a true reflection of your abilities.

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  • Confidence Secret Agent 008!

    Are you ready to have some fun? Are you ready to go beyond enemy lines in the line of duty for queen and country? Ok, ok I know I’m getting carried away – how about completing another confidence building exercise instead?!

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  • Are you holding on to things you ‘should’ do?

    Are you carrying around with you a lot of emotional baggage that you could be doing without? If you were to lose that emotional weight you could be focusing on something more productive instead.

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  • How do you see yourself?

    It is interesting that with most people, everything they do on a day-to-day basis is affected by them comparing their activities with their view of their ideal qualities and then striving to behave consistently with them.

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  • Are you living the life of your dreams?

    I have a really important question to ask you. You owe it to yourself to stop what you’re doing for a moment and really think about it…Are you living the life of your dreams?

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  • Taking time for YOU!

    My clients often tell me that one of the added benefits of coaching they hadn’t considered before they started, is that their hour long session can often be the only time in a busy week that they feel able to step back and truly focus 100% on themselves. Hand on heart, how often could you say that you allow yourself to do that?

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  • Removing stress with coaching

    Why is it that all we seem to hear about these days is stress? Why does it seem to pervade everything we do?

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  • What makes you laugh?

    I was considering this the other day. There are so many things that make us laugh, whether it be a quiet chuckle or a full blown belly laugh. Frequently there is something that makes us really smile or laugh.

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  • Your assertive rights

    In your continuing journey of rebuilding your confidence as the real you, it is essential that you implement your assertive rights so that your life is as happy as it can be.

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  • Sometimes I have feelings of inadequacy

    Sometimes I have feelings of inadequacy and of not being good enough. I am not sure where they come from but I sometimes wake up feeling that way. I remember one such occasion, I went to a breakfast business networking meeting, one I went to every Thursday morning at 7am, which meant getting up at 5am to be showered and dressed ready for business by 6.15am at the latest. Then a 10 mile drive.

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  • Be a surfer – riding the incoming waves of information

    No sooner have we made a decision on what to eat or how to think about the universe than a new report, video or book comes out confounding our well-researched opinion.

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