I was considering why it is that friends come into our lives and some of them go out of our lives again.
There are many and varied reasons I suspect, but for me I think that some people fall away because of the changes I have made to myself. I have learned so much about myself over the past few years that I was unaware of before. For instance I didn’t realise until recently that I have stuffed emotions and feelings down for years because I was conditioned growing up not to show emotion or share feelings.
When I was in a toxic relationship I had very few friends, and those I did have were not that close. I wasn’t allowed to get close to anybody. Getting divorced and learning to live my life as me has been a steep learning curve.
I have learned how to express my feelings, get close to people I really like and keep others at arms length. Now that I am able to express emotions and share my feelings other people may find this unacceptable to them. And that is okay. What I am comfortable with is not always comfortable for everyone else. And that may be why some friends have moved away. The fact that other people think differently from me is perfectly okay.
The friends I have currently are wonderful. Some live nearby, some live on different continents, but I am grateful to them all for their friendship and support. I do my best to support all my friends, it may be in a big way or in a small way. My life is so much richer for having my friends in it.
I am grateful for all the friends I have had, still have and those I have yet to meet for their contributions to my life.
Do you have friends in your life that you are grateful for? Have you had friends move away for one reason or another? Is your life richer for having your friends in it?