Disrespect

I am shocked at the amount of disrespect there is for people of all ages by those who are deemed ‘professionals’.

My eyes were opened to several incidents of disrespect when I was in a public waiting area awaiting being collected to go to a meeting.

The first incident went as follows:

A teenage boy was waiting for the ‘professional’ he had an appointment with to arrive. He waited for almost twenty minutes before she arrived. No apologies. She just said ‘We’ve got a meeting, let’s find a room’. Then spent several minutes trying to find somewhere for this meeting to occur.

The second incident went as follows:

Three teenage girls came to the waiting area. One of them had an appointment with a ‘professional’. The three girls were all clean, tidy, well dressed and had obviously made the effort to get to the appointment on time. The ‘professional’ hadn’t arrived yet they were told. Several times the receptionist was asked if the ‘professional’ had arrived yet, and each time they were told no.

Eventually the ‘professional’ arrived. No apologies for being late. Same as before trying to find a room, going up and down a corridor.

This to me is total disrespect for the teenagers who have made the effort to get to their appointments on time. They are ready for the meetings, but the ‘professionals’ appear to have no respect for the young people.

There are many people who say that young people have no respect for their elders. In some cases this is true, but if they are treated in this fashion then why would they have any respect? Obviously the ‘professionals’ concerned have no respect for themselves, their work or the young people or they would be there, on time, ready to go and to do their very best for these young people.

Incident three went like this:

I was waiting to go to a meeting I had been invited to which was due to start at 10am. I arrived early and waited. The receptionist rang whoever was in charge of the meeting to let them know I was there. I waited for over twenty minutes and then told the receptionist that I was going since nobody had collected me and I was disappointed with the way I was being ignored.

I received an email from the notetaker of the meeting later on in the day informing me that I wasn’t on the list of people to attend the meeting, despite having been invited to the meeting.

Again, I feel there is disrespect at play here. It seems that as I am not regarded as a ‘professional’ I am not worthy of being included their meeting.

Incident four went like this:

A group of ‘professionals’ were waiting to go to a meeting. One ‘professional’ was more concerned that she had to be back at her work by 11am. One ‘professional’ proclaimed that she was merely ticking boxes. Such ‘professionalism’ shows a total disrespect for the subject of the meeting, whoever that was, for their own standards of ‘professionalism’ and for society as a whole.

All these incidents occurred within a very short space of time. I am totally shocked that in this day and age people behave in this way. There is no need to be so disrespectful of yourself, your job and the people you are there to help. If you don’t like the job you are doing then why are you doing it? Find something you do like doing and do it to the best of your ability.

I love my work. I am passionate about helping people to live the very best lives they can and work very hard to achieve that. I work in a professional way and when I say I will be somewhere at a particular time, I am there, usually a few minutes before that time.

To be dismissive and not even apologise for being late is unacceptable behaviour. There will probably be the usual excuses of the traffic was bad, the bus was late, the dog escaped etc. That is blaming everyone and everything for your lateness, when in fact the only person who is responsible for you being late is you. You are responsible for every aspect of your life, not anyone else. If you are late it is because you didn’t allow enough time to get there. It is your responsibility to there, to be ready and to do your best for your clients. Being professional doesn’t just refer to your qualifications, it refers to your whole life.

If this resonates with you, get in touch with me today. I would like to hear from you.

Maggie Currie

Transformational Coach, ConsultantFounder of MAGGIE CURRIE COACHING

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